When You Can Master Yourself, You Can Master Anything
Last week, I taught my first virtual workshop on Mastering Confidence. It was such a great event and I loved hearing from you all. The core concept of the course was about reshaping the way you think about your inner self while reconstructing your external environment. Because so many of you who missed the class have since reached out, I’m sharing a few tips and strategies we discussed in this newsletter. And, for those of you who want more, I’m making the recording available for purchase for a limited time. Please contact my team here.
Mastering Confidence Takeaways
How do we define confidence? According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, it’s the feeling of consciousness of one’s power or of reliance on one’s circumstances. When I look at confidence, I think about two things - my inner self, and my external world. Confidence is controllable, but it is reliant on both your relationship with yourself and the external circumstances surrounding you.
Let’s first discuss your internal confidence.
In order to exude confidence and command respect from others, you need to start with respecting and valuing yourself. If you don’t have respect for yourself, nobody else will. Think about the way you talk to yourself in your mind. When you make a mistake, do you use self-defeating language? Catch yourself next time, stop, and think of the positive alternatives.
When we think about external circumstances as they relate to confidence, we want to become more aware.
You can control your confidence by becoming conscious of your surroundings and purposefully choosing not to expose yourself to damaging situations, such as negative and harmful consumption of multimedia and relationships that diminish your own values.
How do the people you surround yourself with make you feel? The five people you communicate with the most each day have a major influence on your thoughts and decisions. Now, you may not be able to cut someone off completely, but you can certainly minimize your relationship with them. Such as not going to them for advice or asking for their input.
The last thing I want to talk about is how you should present yourself.
What does your body language say about you? Do you have strong body language habits? Do you stand with your shoulders back, chest up, and head held high? Do you make eye contact with the person you’re speaking to? Do you talk in a strong, deep, and deliberate voice? Use thoughtful words and ask engaging questions to allow others to speak? These simple changes can help increase your confidence.
Your true self-foundation must be rooted in a strong sense of confidence, or else every other skill, trait, or strategy you try to implement in your life will waver. You can learn skills and adopt strategies but confidence is the most important thing.
Mastering confidence is about owning who you are and knowing your worth. Most importantly, it is about self-discipline.
